The one practice that has helped me to do my business well is simply the fact that I don’t allow myself to get offended.
I used to get offended when people didn’t understand me, or questioned and challenged my intentions for doing certain things. I would be upset when people tried to ‘take’ from me, got needy, or couldn’t agree with my point of view.
What helps me to let go of offense these days are these revelations:
- That people are shaped by very different life experiences and backgrounds. It is not fair for me to expect them to see things in my way, or to agree with me even. We didn’t live the same life! Good for us if we can agree, but if they don’t – that’s totally okay.
- I am not ‘less’ of a person just because someone does not agree or follow my way. I am uniquely, wonderfully made; and I am a whole person, in full control of myself. If someone wants something from me, I can give it, and not regret it, even if he/she takes it for granted or takes advantage of me. Why? Simply because someone else’s actions towards me does not subtract from who I am.
It is easier said than done, and granted, it has taken me a long time to get here. (Even to this day, I still allow myself to slip into it if I’m not careful.) But I have come a long way from being petty and taking every little thing personally – and I am a much happier, free-er individual and businessperson for it.